Through lifetime of a person, puberty is the age that is subject to the most difficult and complex changes, so one is most prone to crises compared to other age groups.
In general, the following factors determine the behavior of people of all ages: physiological, psychological and social. These factors, in particular the physiological maturity strongly affect adolescents, as follows:
Reaching puberty (ages 13 through 17), male and female sex hormones are excreted in abundance to produce gender specific changes. Little girls develop to become teenage girls (menstruation, breast growth, body proliferation, ready to conceive and propagate according to the law of nature). Little boys grow up to be teenagers, bearded, muscular, semen starts to create and ready for ejaculation.
There are also growth hormones to make them grow at height. We can imagine that their bodies are a hot, energetic, impulsive furnace. This explains the need to play sports or participate in activities that require physical exercise.
Their schedule of work or leisure also changes: they stay up late, eat and sleep more erratically. In particular, what they want they try to get at all costs, however they soon be fed up with it. It is noteworthy that there are a number of mental illnesses found at ages 15 to 25, such as schizophrenia, manic depression and depression, etc.
Psychology of early blooming age
Their soul is a battleground on which the following “forces” fight fiercely:
– Parents’ teachings in all areas: morality, occupation, religion, love, marriage, behavior towards boyfriend, girlfriend, etc… are no longer absolutely true dogmas, not as the same ways as they always thought when they were younger. They become skeptical, challenging, arguing and opposing.
– Opinion of teachers, school, society (through movies, books).
– The attraction of friends, the need to be accepted “in the group” (fit in).
– The attraction to the opposite sex (or the same sex if they have a tendency to homosexuality, this is also the age that they begin to know what is their tendency). They begin to have a concept of characteristics they want their girl/boy friend to have.
– Who they are, what they live for, what is the ideal of life, their philosophical conception, the values of life etc… are the things they reflect thoroughly to establish their own personality.
Financial condition of family, education system, economic and political status of society etc… constitute social factors affecting teenagers.
Each child is a unique world, so each case is different. The abnormality in this child may still be normal in another child. Therefore, it is important to recognize the symptoms of a crisis as a sudden change of behavior after an incident. To see this, parents need to be close to them often to spot any changes. Here are the symptoms to watch out for:
|Symptoms suggesting that children are experiencing a teenage crisis|
– Happy in childhood, or talkative, argumentative, or easy laughing, or willingly participating in family activities, but now suddenly keep silent, alone for many hours in private rooms, do not want to contact anyone, even by phone talk, or do not go out with friends, or are irritated, or cry without cause, no longer like the foods or toys that they usually love.
– When talking, often express pessimistic and depressing ideas, or talk about death.
– Grades in the class fall down on all subjects. They no longer consider learning as important as before.
– They change the way of eating so that severely gain in or loss their weight. This symptom usually happens in girls. Some of them eat in large amounts and get fat. Some of them think that they are too fat so they fast to the point of being tired and they exercise constantly
– Some commit illegal actions: stealing, robbing, fighting, using weapons, bahave ruthlessly with others as well as with animals. In severe cases, enter criminal gangs.
– Use of marijuana, drugs, alcohol, gambling.
– Leave home overnight.
How to prevent puberty crisis
Prevention is better than cure. Parents need to spend a lot of time observing, learning and connecting with their children, creating easy and convenient conditions for them to talk and share. Accepting changes of roles: Parents are no longer idol of the children as in the past. Their opinion is just one of the ideas that the children are getting.
|Parents should accept children’s needs|
Parents should accept children’s needs as they need to decide and learn from their own mistakes. When working with parents, the psychologists often take a example of teaching swimming: Their children need to jump in the water, get choked with water a few times before being able to swim. Just sit on the shore and one can never be able to swim.
How to deal with or cure puberty crisis
Normally, being close to children is a very good treatment. In most cases, their symptoms are also symptoms of the whole family experiencing the crisis. Therefore, the whole family needs to be involved in therapy. The help of a professional family psychologist is essential. Most of them overcome these difficulties if they meet psychological counselors that both children and their family believe in. In some cases, they need medical treatment, and they need to see a psychiatrist.